College. A Black Student Leadership Conference. That was the first time I laid eyes on Jesse Jackson Jr. He was the keynote speaker...and yep, he was FINE! :-) Fast forward to 2012...and I cringe that I ever thought he was the slightest bit attractive. Hos are not fine nor attractive to me these days. And yes, it is personal. Just as personal as it is for the group of female Chicago aldermen that blasted Jesse Jr in the media today after the story broke that he's in plea deals with the feds about misuse of campaign funds, including buying his side chick a $40,000 Rolex. Really???
I do not know him personally, nor his wife, Alderman Sandy Jackson....but it's the same ole story. The junk is trifling and ridiculous. Hurtful. Any extramarital affair is devastating to the wronged spouse....but to add insult to injury, he is sniffing behind a woman who is COMPLETELY opposite of his wife. Blond and white. What are you tryin' to say Jesse??? Typical. Sigh. And no, it wouldn't have made it better if she were brown-skinned and black-eyed.
Obviously he didn't care enough to even try to hide his indiscretions since he was flying this woman to Chicago to meet him and she was referred to as his "social companion". So the junk was well-known in their circle. Sandy eventually found out too...and stayed to work it out.
Now I know there are those who will say "Well, you don't know what was going on in his marriage. He was obviously unhappy. His wife wasn't meeting his needs." Blah blah blah. Bull. B.S. Bullshhhhh! I have had a man tell me how his wife wasn't this and that....how she doesn't do this and that....which was the reason he was doing this and that. The whole "the devil made me do it" excuse is so lame.
Listen up all Ho-Dogs (yes, that's my word!). Stop with the blaming and excuses. Grow some "balls". Talk to God. Talk to your spouse. Pray with your spouse. Pray to God. Get some counselling. Put some real selfless work in. It is YOUR responsibility to KEEP the VOWS YOU made! If all else fails, do the honorable thing and LEAVE! Don't leave your children. Don't leave your responsibilities. Leave the marriage....even if temporarily. But to sneak around...or worse yet, blatantly cheat on your wife/husband because you are displeased and unsatisfied with the situation??? And don't even get me started on the super selfish crass infuriating DOWN-LOW MESS. FIRE!!!
The real is most Ho-Dogs may want to leave, but they don't because they want the double-cheese burger, super-sized fries AND the six-pack abs at the same time. The comfort of a home, go-to life partner, someone to share the load whether financially, emotionally or otherwise. It's easier to stay...and stray. But life doesn't work that way. Eventually that double-cheese will start popping through them ripped abs. And everyone will see the evidence of all of those behind closed door binges.
bite of the day ~ I had no plans to write about this but I needed to...express. Prayers up for the Jacksons. Especially Sandy...but ditto to Alderman Austin. "He would NEED to stay in Mayo Clinic if he was my husband." Click the link below for the whole article .